In any given moment, a man's growth is optimized if he leans just beyond his edge, his capacity, his fear.
He should not be too lazy, happily stagnating in the zone of security and comfort. Nor should he push far beyond his edge, stressing himself unnecessarily, unable to metabolize his experience.
He should lean just slightly beyond the edge of fear and discomfort. Constantly. In everything he does.
Wednesday, July 31, 2013
9 - Do It for Love...
The way a man penetrates the world should be the same way he penetrates his woman: not merely for personal gain or pleasure, but to magnify love, openness, and depth.
10 - Enjoy Your Friends' Criticism...
A man's capacity to receive another man's direct criticism is a measure of his capacity to receive masculine energy.
If he doesn't have a good relationship to masculine energy (e.g., his father), then he will act like a woman and be hurt or defensive rather than make use of other men's criticism.
If he doesn't have a good relationship to masculine energy (e.g., his father), then he will act like a woman and be hurt or defensive rather than make use of other men's criticism.
11 - If You Don't Know Your Purpose, Discover It, Now...
Without a conscious life purpose a man is totally lost, drifting, adapting to events rather than creating events.
Without knowing his life purpose a man lives a weakened, impotent existence, perhaps eventually becoming even sexually impotent, or prone to mechanical and disinterested sex.
Without knowing his life purpose a man lives a weakened, impotent existence, perhaps eventually becoming even sexually impotent, or prone to mechanical and disinterested sex.
12 - Be Willing to Change Everything in Your Life...
A man must be prepared to give 100% to his purpose, fulfill his karma or dissolve it, and then let go of that specific form of living.
He must be capable of not knowing what to do with his life, entering a period of unknowingness and waiting for a vision or a new form of purpose to emerge.
These cycles of strong specific action followed by periods of not knowing what the hell is going on are natural for a man who is shedding layers of karma in his relaxation into truth.
He must be capable of not knowing what to do with his life, entering a period of unknowingness and waiting for a vision or a new form of purpose to emerge.
These cycles of strong specific action followed by periods of not knowing what the hell is going on are natural for a man who is shedding layers of karma in his relaxation into truth.
13 - Don't Use Your Family As an Excuse...
If a man never discovers his deepest purpose, or if he permanently compromises it and uses his family as an excuse for doing so, then his core becomes weakened and he loses depth and presence.
His woman loses trust and sexual polarity with him, even though he may be putting much energy into parenting their children and doing the housework.
A man should, of course, be a full participant in caring for children and the household. But if he gives up his deepest purpose to do so, ultimately, everyone suffers.
His woman loses trust and sexual polarity with him, even though he may be putting much energy into parenting their children and doing the housework.
A man should, of course, be a full participant in caring for children and the household. But if he gives up his deepest purpose to do so, ultimately, everyone suffers.
14 - Don't Get Lost in Tasks and Duties...
Whatever the specifics of a man's purpose, he must always refresh the transcendental element of his life through regular meditation and retreat.
A man should never get lost in the details of his life and forget that, ultimately and in truth, life amounts to nothing other than what is the deepest truth of this present moment.
Tasks don't get a man anywhere more conscious or free than he is capable of being in this present moment.
A man should never get lost in the details of his life and forget that, ultimately and in truth, life amounts to nothing other than what is the deepest truth of this present moment.
Tasks don't get a man anywhere more conscious or free than he is capable of being in this present moment.