There is never a shortage of women or feminine energy.
If a man feels that there aren't enough women, or that life isn't giving him what he wants, he is simply negating his relationship to the feminine.
This sense of starvation— "life is not sustaining me" or "there are no good women"—is usually rooted in a man's early childhood relationship with his mother.
Life itself is the feminine. There is never a shortage of feminine energy, only a resistance to receiving, trusting, and embracing it.
Wednesday, July 31, 2013
40 - Allow Older Women Their Magic...
Men should support older women in the their wisdom, power, and intuitive and healing capacities.
Men should not degrade older women by demanding or desiring them to be like young women. There should be no such comparison.
Each age of woman has its own value, and the transition from superficial shine to deep radiance is inevitable.
Men should not degrade older women by demanding or desiring them to be like young women. There should be no such comparison.
Each age of woman has its own value, and the transition from superficial shine to deep radiance is inevitable.
41 - Turn Your Lust Into Gifts...
When a man sees a beautiful woman it is natural for him to feel energy in his body, which he usually interprets as sexual desire.
Rather than dispersing this energy in mental fantasy, a man should learn to circulate his heightened energy. He should breathe fully, circulating the energy fully throughout his body.
He should treat his heightened energy as a gift which could heal and rejuvenate his body, and, through his service, heal the world.
Through these means, his desire is converted into fullness of heart. His lust is converted into service.
His desire is not converted by denying sexual attraction, but by enjoying it fully, circulating it through his body (without allowing it to stagnate as mental fantasy), and returning it to the world, from his heart.
Rather than dispersing this energy in mental fantasy, a man should learn to circulate his heightened energy. He should breathe fully, circulating the energy fully throughout his body.
He should treat his heightened energy as a gift which could heal and rejuvenate his body, and, through his service, heal the world.
Through these means, his desire is converted into fullness of heart. His lust is converted into service.
His desire is not converted by denying sexual attraction, but by enjoying it fully, circulating it through his body (without allowing it to stagnate as mental fantasy), and returning it to the world, from his heart.
42 - Never Allow Your Desire to Become Suppressed or Depolarized...
When a man denies his desire for the feminine, either by choice or due to familiarity, it is a sign of his depolarization even toward the world.
He may seek a mistress in order to re-invigorate him, but this is usually only a temporary and complicated solution, since it is only a matter of time before his mistress also becomes familiar, and thus tiresome.
Any woman toward whom a man becomes depolarized will feel his rejection, disgust, and turning away. In response, she will become angry and destructive. Her "unhusbanded" energy will begin to move chaotically, becoming even self-destructive.
A man has no excuse; he must cultivate a polarized relationship to his woman and his world if he is to remain in relationship with them.
He may seek a mistress in order to re-invigorate him, but this is usually only a temporary and complicated solution, since it is only a matter of time before his mistress also becomes familiar, and thus tiresome.
Any woman toward whom a man becomes depolarized will feel his rejection, disgust, and turning away. In response, she will become angry and destructive. Her "unhusbanded" energy will begin to move chaotically, becoming even self-destructive.
A man has no excuse; he must cultivate a polarized relationship to his woman and his world if he is to remain in relationship with them.
43 - Use Her Attractiveness as a Slingshot Through Appearance...
A good woman is a source of inspiration and attraction into the world for a man.
He must never forget, however, that neither the world nor his woman is the purpose of his existence. His practice is always to feel through women and the world, without suppression or disdain, into the their source or very nature.
A man's attraction to women must be converted from attraction to women into attraction through women.
He must feel his desire without suppression, and then feel through his desire into the source-energy of desire.
He must feel through her beauty, into the very delight of which her beauty is a but a ripple and reminder.
His whole relation to appearance is epitomized in his relation to women, either as obsession, distraction, or revelation.
He must never forget, however, that neither the world nor his woman is the purpose of his existence. His practice is always to feel through women and the world, without suppression or disdain, into the their source or very nature.
A man's attraction to women must be converted from attraction to women into attraction through women.
He must feel his desire without suppression, and then feel through his desire into the source-energy of desire.
He must feel through her beauty, into the very delight of which her beauty is a but a ripple and reminder.
His whole relation to appearance is epitomized in his relation to women, either as obsession, distraction, or revelation.
44 - Ejaculation Should Be Converted or Consciously Chosen...
There are many physical and spiritual reasons why ejaculation should be converted into non-ejaculatory whole body, brain, and heart orgasms.
But there are also relational reasons.
When a man has no control over his ejaculation, he cannot meet his woman sexually or emotionally. She knows she can deplete him, weaken him, empty him of life force. She has won.
When a man ejaculates easily, he creates ongoing distrust in his woman.
At a subtle level, she feels he cannot be trusted. She, and the world, can deplete and depolarize him easily. This subtle distrust will pervade the relationship.
She will not only doubt him, but actually act to undermine his actions in the world. By undermining him she demonstrates and tests his weakness, but she also hopes that through such tests he can learn to remain full.
But there are also relational reasons.
When a man has no control over his ejaculation, he cannot meet his woman sexually or emotionally. She knows she can deplete him, weaken him, empty him of life force. She has won.
When a man ejaculates easily, he creates ongoing distrust in his woman.
At a subtle level, she feels he cannot be trusted. She, and the world, can deplete and depolarize him easily. This subtle distrust will pervade the relationship.
She will not only doubt him, but actually act to undermine his actions in the world. By undermining him she demonstrates and tests his weakness, but she also hopes that through such tests he can learn to remain full.
45 - Breathe Down the Front...
All men tend to have blocks in the front of their body, along an imaginary line that runs from the top of the head, through the tongue, throat, heart, solar plexus, navel, and genitals, down to the perineum.
The principal bodily key to mastering the world and women is maintaining a full and open front of the body at all times.
The basic method is through full and relaxed breathing, drawing energy down the front, and freeing attention from neurotic self-concern.
The principal bodily key to mastering the world and women is maintaining a full and open front of the body at all times.
The basic method is through full and relaxed breathing, drawing energy down the front, and freeing attention from neurotic self-concern.