Most men make the error of thinking that one day it will be done. They think, "If I can work enough, then one day I could rest." Or, "One day my woman will understand something and then she will stop complaining." Or, "I'm only doing this now so that one day I can do what I really want with my life."
The masculine error is to think that eventually things will be different in some fundamental way. They won't.
It never ends. As long as life continues, the creative challenge is to tussle, play, and make love with the present moment while giving your unique gift.
Wednesday, July 31, 2013
2 - Live With an Open Heart Even If It Hurts...
Closing down in the midst of pain is a denial of a man's true nature.
A superior man is free in feeling and action, even amidst great pain and hurt. If necessary, a man should live with a hurting heart rather than a closed one.
He should learn to stay in the wound of pain and act with spontaneous skill and love even from that place.
A superior man is free in feeling and action, even amidst great pain and hurt. If necessary, a man should live with a hurting heart rather than a closed one.
He should learn to stay in the wound of pain and act with spontaneous skill and love even from that place.
3 - Live As If Your Father Were Dead...
A man must love his father and yet be free of his father's expectations and criticisms in order to be a free man.
4 - Know Your Real Edge and Don't Fake it...
It is honorable for a man to admit his fears, resistance, and edge of practice. It is simply true that each man has his limit, his capacity for growth, and his destiny.
But it is dishonorable for him to lie to himself or others about his real place. He shouldn't pretend he is more enlightened than he is — nor should he stop short of his actual edge.
The more a man is playing his real edge, the more valuable he is as good company for other men, the more he can be trusted to be authentic and fully present. Where a man's edge is located is less important than whether he is actually living his edge in truth, rather than being lazy or deluded.
But it is dishonorable for him to lie to himself or others about his real place. He shouldn't pretend he is more enlightened than he is — nor should he stop short of his actual edge.
The more a man is playing his real edge, the more valuable he is as good company for other men, the more he can be trusted to be authentic and fully present. Where a man's edge is located is less important than whether he is actually living his edge in truth, rather than being lazy or deluded.
5 - Always Hold To Your Deepest Realization...
Eternity must be a man's home, moment by moment.
Without it, he is lost, always striving, grasping at puffs of smoke.
A man must do anything necessary to glimpse, and then stabilize, this ever fresh realization, and organize his life around it.
Without it, he is lost, always striving, grasping at puffs of smoke.
A man must do anything necessary to glimpse, and then stabilize, this ever fresh realization, and organize his life around it.
6 - Never Change Your Mind Just to Please a Woman...
If a woman suggests something that changes a man's perspective, then he should make a new decision based on his new perspective. But he should never betray his own deepest knowledge and intuition in order to please his woman or "go along" with her.
Both she and he will be weakened by such an action.
They will grow to resent each other, and the crust of accumulated inauthenticity will burden their love, as well as their capacity for free action.
Both she and he will be weakened by such an action.
They will grow to resent each other, and the crust of accumulated inauthenticity will burden their love, as well as their capacity for free action.
7 - Your Purpose Must Come Before Your Relationship...
Every man knows that his highest purpose in life cannot be reduced to any particular relationship.
If a man prioritizes his relationship over his highest purpose, he weakens himself, disserves the universe, and cheats his woman of an authentic man who can offer her full, undivided presence.
If a man prioritizes his relationship over his highest purpose, he weakens himself, disserves the universe, and cheats his woman of an authentic man who can offer her full, undivided presence.